The value of embracing adversity is almost always discovered in the aftermath. This is because it is also a truth that learning in the face of (and from) challenge, disappointment and frustration is incredibly important to understanding what it takes to be successful. Learning these lessons well, and surviving the tests that they impose, then leads to even greater moments of exhilaration, confidence, and accomplishment
I don’t want my son or daughter to learn that they can’t overcome obstacles without help. I don’t want them to learn that they can reach great heights without effort. I don’t want them to learn that they are entitled to the reward without having to push through whatever it is that’s holding them back and “earn” it.
When others face adversity, encourage them to think how they can solve it themselves, push them to think critically about what they can do better.
This thought– that any significant achievement and growth always involves embracing and overcoming adversity – is key to learning. In fact, the willingness to stretch boundaries of performance and comfort levels is the only way that real growth occurs.
To strive through adversity, these boundaries take the form of determination and execution, discipline, complexity of will and survival. When a survivor moves “up to the next level” in any situation, they are by definition nearly always outside of their comfort zone but has a purpose in life –
In the end, Its not easy to or comfortable stretching our boundaries are the ones that find the greatest growth, and ultimately greatest success can become discouraged. This concept in the thought, to be great, you must “be comfortable being uncomfortable.” More bluntly put: the best learners embrace challenge and adversity as a requirement for growth and achievement. The best coaches create environments that challenge limits and take athletes places they wouldn’t go on their own, and even create adversity from time to time for this reason. We as simple individuals should do the same.
Ironically, our ability to embrace adversity – to learn resilience – is often directly impacted by other people’s ability to allow us to wrestle with adversity. The most important influence in this regard is our parents and peers. In other words, parents must be able to accept the possibility of their children’s failure. Many times, it is the fact that the parents themselves cannot handle their children’s failure that causes them to intervene in the process – and immediately stop learning. Peers Judge and make relationships difficult with individuals in being accepted for themselves especially in failure.
When you care about faces adversity, encourage yourself to think how you can solve it, push yourself to think critically about what you can do better, and ask yourself to demonstrate the maturity to talk to others if necessary about your feelings. Usually, someone already knows the answer and what you may need to do better – We only need help digging it up and then we can apply.
The road to redemption is not an easy one ..But facing life’s challenges will make a better future and a better world.